My wife played with Mr Smith, Must I play with his wife?

The answer to this is: Only if you want to, and if Mrs. Smith wants to play with you.

This is something you need to sort out with your partner before you attend an event, and probably with the couple that one of you is going to play with. It is perfectly OK to say "My wife would like to play with you, but I am going to sit this out".

The most difficult mix in swinging is a foursome, where all 4 people find there is the right chemistry to want to play,

A common lament between couples is that "I took one for the team" meaning that they had played with with someone so that their partner could play with the person they fancied.

It is easier to give each other the freedom to engage in 3somes or play as singles. It is also a big turn on telling each other what happened when you are alone later.

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